Only for the brave of heart mind and soul!

[blade]

I post this not expecting anyone to respond publicly but if you choose to do so, then I applaud your bravery. If you wish to share and discuss anything or have any questions on what I have posted to make you think, please feel free to send me a private message.

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately on my submission and what it means to me. These are some of the questions I ask myself on a daily basis, and some I feel all Dominants should ask themselves and share these with their submissives.

I will post the Dominant Questions first simply because D/s is how it is explained in the symbol.

What does Dominance mean to you?

Why do you feel you are dominant?

How does being dominant with someone make you feel?

In what ways do you feel you express your dominance?

In what ways do you want to express your dominance with another?

How does that make you feel?

Are you comfortable speaking about these things with a submissive? If not, why?

In what ways do you feel you express your dominance with your submissive if you have one?

What things do you feel you do as a dominant to help them learn and grow as a submissive?

What would you like to do differently if some of those things seem not to work?

Do you set tasks for your submissive to do to allow them a chance to show you their submission? If so, how do you do this?
If not, why not or what do you do?

In order to be dominant with a submissive, a dominant must be able to control him/herself. Do you feel you are and why?

Now for the submissive questions:

What does submission mean to you?

Why do you feel you are submissive?

How does being submissive with someone make you feel?

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness?

In what ways do you want to express your submissiveness with another?

How does that make you feel?

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness with your dominant if you have one?

What things does your dominant do to help you learn and grow as a submissive?

What would you like them to do differently?

How does your dominant allow you to show your submission to them?

How does this make you feel?

In order to be a good submissive, do you know how to give control over to a dominant? If yes, how? If no, explain why not.

No one is perfect, not everyone views things the same ways, I hope by offering these questions it will make people think of who they are, why they do things the way they do, and what they are looking for in themselves and each other.

[tatiana{MBM}]

What does submission mean to you? Submission means that there is trust enough to submit.  You can't truly submit or be submissive if you don't trust the one that you are with, even on a "play" level.

Why do you feel you are submissive?  My master makes me feel that way.  There's no way that I feel dominant over him in any way.

How does being submissive with someone make you feel?  Well, I am only submissive with my own Master.  Anyone else would have to earn it, and that is very unlikely that that would happen.  But with my own, it makes me feel completed.

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness? I wear a collar when I can, r/t permitting.  I also have slave bells that I wear as well.  Those I can wear on a regular basis.  Most of the time I defer to my master on things, let him answer questions, make statements, make decisions.

In what ways do you want to express your submissiveness with another?  I would not want to be submissive with another.

In order to be a good submissive, do you know how to give control over to a dominant? If yes, how? If no, explain why not.   Submission is not about giving over control.  It's about trust.  The control is always in the hands of the submissive, this should never be forgotten.  It's when this is forgotten that it can lead to abuse because the submissive thinks they have no control, they've given it over.  If anything when you are in a relationship that is a good one, the dominant borrows or is allowed control of the submissive.  It's never just given over.

[blade]

Thank you for sharing, tatiana~smiles brightly~

[Lacee]

I'll get back to this later it's way to tired out now.

[Lacee]

What does Dominance mean to you?
It means You are the Keeper, the Caregiver, the Shoulder to cry on, the Lover, The Teacher and bad ass Corrector when nesessary.

Why do you feel you are dominant?
Hmmm...taps chin thinking...I have always felt so. whispers...I don't take orders well..lol

How does being dominant with someone make you feel?
With Our's *S*...I feels right and whole. I feel more completed. A ying to My yang persay.

In what ways do you feel you express your dominance?
There many ways to express Dominance and not of all of them include barking orders, though I do love to so...lol. I believe I express My Dominance by being open and honest, sincere. I care. Our's all know they are well loved but would be punished in a heart beat if I/We thought
it was nesessary for their well being.

In what ways do you want to express your dominance with another?
By being what a true Dominant should be a loyal caring teacher.

How does that make you feel?
Well I find it to be a very satisfying feeling.

Are you comfortable speaking about these things with a submissive? If not, why?
Yes, definately.

In what ways do you feel you express your dominance with your submissive if you have one?
Points up "same as all stated above"..lol

What things do you feel you do as a dominant to help them learn and grow as a submissive?
I observe them, I listen to them when they talk to Me. I speak to them, not over them. At times I "strongly" suggest a better method or behavior. I *S*love them and don't fear the showing of it. they are special gifts not to be taken lightly.

What would you like to do differently if some of those things seem not to work?
If something doesn't work Y/you try to work it out...if it's a behavioral problem and they're just being pigheaded......Thonk!

Do you set tasks for your submissive to do to allow them a chance to show you their submission? If so, how do you do this?
If not, why not or what do you do?
Yes We do *S*. Our girls are very active in the home of LnL. Lately kimilla not so much she's been ill, but as soon as she's better..back to the chores with her.
Our's are expected to enter their home and offer their leashes first to the Master of the home.

In order to be dominant with a submissive, a dominant must be able to control him/herself. Do you feel you are and why?
Oh good question...lol...Oh I definately have good control of Myself....lol..I have to no one else is going to be able to. Why?...well because I know I'm prone to snit fits "also My nature". But have learnt it's best to choose Your battles....is it really worth getting that upset?...most times no it isn't. Hell that kind of control in itself should count for something, right.


Signed...Ms. Lacee

[siennaa]

oh this looks like fun ...smiles...
i will ask my Daddy if it is ok for me to fill this in
if yes i will post it up ...smiles...

[blade]

But have learnt it's best to choose Your battles....is it really worth getting that upset?...most times no it isn't. Hell that kind of control in itself should count for something, right.

I love that... words straight from my soul... I would point out that its said that the subs really have the control in a D/s rela because without them submitting there is no D/s. I have seen alot of subs that appear to be completely out of control and perhaps that's because they have to be in control in their daily lives, when they get a chance to be with a Dom they fall into the (Lord knows I'm sooooo guilty of this at times too) "BRAT" mode and the Dom has to use more "control" with them. I believe that everyone should learn to pick and choose their battles, and stop and think, "is it really worth getting that upset about?" whether it be in everyday life or a D/s relationship.

oh this looks like fun ...smiles...
i will ask my Daddy if it is ok for me to fill this in
if yes i will post it up ...smiles...

It's there to fill out even if it's just for yourself, you don't have to post it at all if you don't wish to. ~smiles~

[zitkala{Cezin/Lacee}]

What does submission mean to you?
To me submission means giving myself completly to my Owners, to serve  and honor Them with my mind body and soul.

Why do you feel you are submissive?

Because thats what i am, ... i am a submissive woman. i am not weak,nor i am worthless.
i am intelligent, and possess a strength and perseverence that withstands the trials of life.
This strength which i possess and cherish is my gift to my Master and Mistress. When life gets Them down, i would hope They would use that strength and make it Their Own

i did not nor will i ever give my submission to a Man or Woman, just because They claim Dominance......          But to Them i give all of me...and Their ownership completely sets me free. i trust in Them to cherish the gift, to embrace my trust in Them...to protect me. for i have opened up my heart and my mind...the very core of my soul to Them..

How does being submissive with someone make you feel?

Their touch awakens me and Their thoughts free me... When serving Them i feel  whole.


In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness?

 i wear Their collar with pride and honor, when entering the home i kneel at Their feet,i keep no secrets from Them, i welcome Their punishment if i stuff up because it helps me be a better submissive to Them, i am in no way jealous if They share Their attention with my sister bugs, becaue i Trust Them and know They love me

In what ways do you want to express your submissiveness with another?

 Not sure what this one means

How does that make you feel?

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness with your dominant if you have one?
 same as above

What things does your dominant do to help you learn and grow as a submissive?

They set tasks,  if i stuff up They punish me and then move on never holding it against me. W/we talk and discuss things and i am allowed my opinion but Their word is final. They expect honesty and respect in return for the same. if i  have a problem They prefer me to talk to Them about it not brrod about it allowing it to escalate

What would you like them to do differently?

Because of the time difference i have a lot of free time before i see Them each day, i know i have chores to do but i would like more tasks/assignments set for me so i get to know Their likes and dislikes more because W/we have limited time T/together.



How does your dominant allow you to show your submission to them?

They allow me to show my submissivness in many ways but one that comes to mind first up is whenever i enter the home when They are there or when i am there waiting for Them i am to offer up my leash to Master , if He is absent i am to offer it to Mistress

How does this make you feel?

Owned, loved and controlled... Theirs

In order to be a good submissive, do you know how to give control over to a dominant? If yes, how? If no, explain why not.

i am a strong, stubborn, headstrong person by nature but having said that i am submissive to the bone....
i am proud to call myself submissive, my submission is a gift that i do not give lightly, and will only be given to the One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold. Only to my Master and Mistress, Who have that strength, will i give myself fully and unconditionly

S/some may ask if you are strong, stubborn and headstrong, how can you call yourself submissive?...thats easy, to be a submissive you need strength ...submissiveness is not a weakness it takes a lot of strength and guts to give a Person full control of you, to trust Them to keep that trust and strength safe and whole and not use it to destroy you


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[sweetpassion]

What does submission mean to you?
to me it means that i give the control over to someone else that i trust and am willingly and happy to obey them

Why do you feel you are submissive?
i don't know i think i have always been sub.. always wanting to please others and enjoying it..

How does being submissive with someone make you feel?
it makes me feel like i have a purpose that i am alive

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness?
by my words and actions.. accepting the collar of my Ones and being pleasing to them doing what i am asked to remembering that what i do reflects Them

In what ways do you want to express your submissiveness with another?
by learning to open myself up more and get more out of my shell which i am doing the more i am with  Them

How does that make you feel?
i am feeling more and more comfortable being truly me in the rooms and with them learning more about me through time with Them.. it makes me feel more alive and happy

In what ways do you feel you express your submissiveness with your dominant if you have one?
by obeying them and  remembering my actions and words reflect Them and opening myself up more to learning and training

What things does your dominant do to help you learn and grow as a submissive?
by being there for me and understanding me They also are helping me learn about well what i like by trying new things

What would you like them to do differently?
nothing i Love Them as is

How does your dominant allow you to show your submission to them?
by placing the collar around my neck and letting me serve them and be devoted to Them and pleasing them

How does this make you feel?
great! i Love being owned by Them

In order to be a good submissive, do you know how to give control over to a dominant? If yes, how? If no, explain why not.
yes..by trusting them in what they do with and to me, i am still learning about giving up control but more and more i am willing to just go with it.. i fully admit i am a work in-progress in learning and everything

[blade]

"i fully admit i am a work in-progress in learning and everything" sweet passion{Lacee&Cezin}

very good, thinks we should all consider ourselves works in progress, Doms included, cause we are.